A Gentle Reminder for this Holiday Season

Happy Wednesday sweet friends. I hope your week has been off to a great start. Today I wanted to touch on something I talked a little bit about on Instagram stories because I think it deserves its own spot here on the blog which is the importances of realizing you do not have to do all the things this holiday season.

As I’ve mentioned before, I have a love/hate relationship with social media for many reasons, but one of those is that we are so inundated with so much information and opinions. Because of this, it is very easy to feel like we should be doing 20,000 things at all times and I find this especially heightens right around the holiday season. Everywhere you look a momma is doing or starting some special tradition with their family or creating some memory. And, if you follow quite a few people on social media (which most of us do), you may see numerous of these traditions repeated. Orrrrr perhaps you see some of these UBER creative accounts who are showing you these craft projects or recipes or gift ideas or decorations that look SO BEAUTIFUL but feel 100% unattainable (anyone else?) because that just isn’t you

It is a lot and I find that especially around the holidays, we can be inundated with ideas that just feel very overwhelming.

Truthfully, I am right there with you, but this year I refuse to allow social media or societal expectations to steal me from enjoying this holiday season with my family and NEITHER SHOULD YOU.

So today, I want to remind you that you do not have to do it all. You do not have to do every project, sign up for helping every event, buy 20 gifts, etc to bring joy to you and your family. That is exhausting and stressful and makes the holiday season so much worse. No. You do not have to do to all those things and no one should feel like they have to do anything this holiday season, so here is what I recommend…

I want you to remove EVERY. SINGLE. PRESSURE you feel from this holiday season. Strip it away. Picture it being January where there are no holidays or even decor really. Next, I want you to make a list of all the “pressures” you feel you must do. That’s right. I want you to right them all down. Every single one, from buying all your gifts, to decorating, to baking, and beyond.

Now, I want you to make a new list and I want you to write down all the things from that list you WANT TO DO. Now, really think about this. What are things you want to do because you want to do them for you and for your family. I don’t want you to think about anyone else in this, except for you. What activities will give you joy and make you happy this holiday season.

Next, with your list of wants, I want you to evaluate if they are realistic to fit into your life. The end of the year doesn’t just come with holiday stress, but typically many jobs are super busy and there are so many close out things that need to happen within our lives, so it is very important to do this step. IF you feel you can navigate all your wants comfortably and smoothly, then you can stop here, but if you still feel overwhelmed or stressed then let’s move on to another step.

For this last step, first look at your wants and ask yourself can you scale anything back within those. For example, maybe you want to do some holiday baking, but instead of baking 5 different things, we just decide to only bake one. Or, perhaps you really want to send out holiday cards, but your normal 100 seems a bit overwhelming. Can we scale this back to 50 or even 25? Go through each item and look at what can get scaled back. Then, lastly, if you feel you can’t scale anything back, I want you to narrow your list down even further and just pick the things that will provide you the most joy and happiness. This means your biggest bang for your buck type items. What is the ABSOLUTE most important.

Once you have these, I want you to only focus on those traditions, tasks, etc. That is all you should incorporate this holiday season and IF you find you have the bandwidth to add something else in, then take a look at your list and choose something.

Here is what I tell myself, I can do allll the things, but if I am grumpy, stressed, annoyed and frustrated the entire time, it is an absolute wash because that behavior is what my family is seeing. They aren’t seeing me trying to do all the things, they are just seeing someone who is grumpy. Instead, if I intentionally choose, what I want to do, not only will that take some stress off my plate, but it will make me so much happier. Then, if I am intentionally choosing the things I enjoy and value, I am going to be EVEN HAPPIER.

Now, I definitely understand in many families some things need to be a discussion. Perhaps you can’t get rid of something because it is important to your partner or your kids. In these situations, have conversations or delegate if you can. Be honest about your stress and I think if you do that, you will find a way to make this season even brighter and more joyful than ever before.

I hope these tips help you this year and remember, you are doing SO amazing. I am so proud of you and I see all of your hard work and effort.

xoxo,

Melissa

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