The photo I took after getting “stood up”
Wow, guys. I am not sure where to begin. It has been a wild week and a half…
The week started with me getting stood up…by a girl.
If you follow me on Instagram, then you might have seen some pictures on my Instagram stories in which I stated I was having dinner by myself (see above photo).
This occurred because I was supposed to have met up with a “new friend,” who ended up bailing on me after I had already been at the restaurant for 20 minutes.
Now, maybe you have no issues making friends. Maybe, friends is the easiest thing for you and everyone wants to be your friend. For me…not so much. I have been burned time and time again by girls and I am so over it.
All I want is some friends I can count on, but either I am screwing up and no one values our friendship enough to tell me, or I attract some pretty rude girls…dinner was case in point.
This probably wouldn’t have been that big of deal had I not been feeling super isolated/lonely/homesick in the first place…but it basically just added fuel to the fire when after getting all dressed up and excited for a possible new relationship, I was stood up. I mean…really??
Then..add a weird work-week that wasn’t truly anyone’s fault, but once again seemed to continue to test me.
Next, hubby was OUT OF TOWN for work.
Then, lastly, an extremely stressful family situation, in which I got news there was an issue on Saturday and ended up on a plan less than 2 hours later.
Luckily, everyone is safe and sound and coming home definitely helped my homesickness, but in the moment, it was a time where it seemed like I might never be able to quite catch my breath.
I know, we have all had those weeks, so here is what I am going to leave you…
First of all, always remember that it is okay to have a bad week, bad day, bad month, or even bad year.
We are all going to go through it and its the natural part of life, unfortunately.
Next, never be afraid to reach out.
I told some friends about my rough week and I was amazed by the outpour of love I experienced. So many friends checked on me, hugged me, cried with me. They were there, even when I had felt earlier in the week so isolated.
Third, get outside yourself.
Many times when we are going through things, we think whoa-is-me, my life is so sad, etc etc. It is during those times that we need to get out of our own heads and get busy. I think sometimes we can internalize and question, and think so much about our own lives that we keep pulling ourselves back into this negative spiral. Get outside your head. Go do something. Stay distracted. Work. Help others. Workout. Do things that stop the focus on you, and put it onto other people.
And lastly, be thankful.
Gratitude is huge and even when you feel like everything is going wrong, I can almost guarantee you can find at least three things to be thankful for.
I am happy to end this wild whirlwind and I feel so motivated with a fresh perspective.
xoxo,
Melissa
