Alright. Let’s really get down into it.
I have been struggling a bit. Maybe even a lot a bit. And not in a I am nervous for myself kind of struggle, but in a life has a lot going on currently kind of way.
Ever since we moved, I have felt a bit off. Sort of like I lost my groove.
Not only was there a lot going on in my personal life, but there has been a lot going on in those I care about lives, and to be honest it has left me in a bit of a rut. I haven’t really felt inspired or motivated like I normally do. I just sort of feel drained. Kind of like, all I can possibly do is just go to work and cuddle with John because that is what feels right for me.
However. I think am slowly getting back.
For the first time since we moved, I feel like I have a handle on life and am somewhat figuring out this whole thing.
It is funny how moving can really throw you off though. I wasn’t really expecting it. Actually, I thought life would be easier.
Reality check. It isn’t.
In fact, now I have more things pulling for my attention (ahem a backyard). In addition, my entire routine went down in shambles. Now, it takes me longer to get to work and as a result, I have lost time I used to have to work on the blog or do things around the house. It isn’t a ton of time, but ends up being a little over three and half hours. And that is just counting my time to and from work.
I also used to live next door to my gym. Now it takes me 15-20 minutes both ways.
My work routine was messed up.
My fitness routine was messed up.
And I felt overwhelmed and blah.
For example, we have been in our new house for about a month and a half and last week was the first week I finally cooked more than 1 meal. Yup. Struggle city.
While I was in it, it was hard. I felt ashamed, guilty, inadequate…now that I am coming on the other side though I am able to see that it was just a little hill I needed to run up and now I am coming down the other side and only gaining speed.
I know we all experience these moments. It isn’t just me. But, if you feel like you might be in the middle of that hill’s incline, here is how I somehow got to the other side, now that I am looking back…
- Take one day at a time. One thing I kept doing was looking to the days and weeks ahead. When you are in it (just like when you are running a hill), you just keep putting one foot in front of the other and you keep your head down focused on the ground because when you do finally look up, you will be much closer than you thought and that crest will be right before you.
- Focus on one thing at a time. When you go through a lot of change, trying to get EVERYTHING back on track is impossible. This is why, I took one thing at a time. For me, the first thing I focused on was my workouts (my priorities include my blog, fitness, and domestic godessing). I chose this because it was an easy one because of my husband. He kept going just like we did before we moved, so he motivated me. I then reassessed and figured out what worked for me. I don’t need 6 days a week, I need a minimum of three. If I can get that, I am good. Then, I focused on the next thing. I just sort of took it this way until each thing figured itself out.
- Give yourself grace and allow for relaxing. Change is stressful. It is hard to adapt. Some people are better at it than others, but for me, it is a little bit harder. I think if I would have been kinder on myself and/or taken more time to adjust it would have been much smoother for me.
- Assess and reassess. I am constantly doing this with my business. Layout a plan. Try the plan. Then re-evaluate if the plan is working.
I hope this advice helps any of you going through a rough season or a season where you simply can’t find your groove. I am still in the midst of my transitioning, but I know I will find what works eventually.
Life isn’t perfect and rosy. It can be hard to adjust but continue to put on a brave face. I see you, I respect you, and I am here for you. Keep on, keepin on.
xoxo,
Melissa
