So, last night’s live actually sparked a blog post for me, which is funny because I actually already had one organized for today, but I realized this is something I feel is important to share and something we allll experience far too often.
Truthfully, I don’t get it. I don’t get why girls have to be mean to each other. I don’t get why we can’t all just be kind to each other despite whether or not we agree. I don’t get why putting someone else down, makes you feel better…I don’t get it.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I have probably done some mean girl things myself. We all have, but now, at the young age of 28, I have realized that it is time we all moved on.
Below are my top three tips for dealing with mean girls:
- First and foremost, this is not a problem with YOU. This has nothing to do with whether you are good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, cool enough, etc. Never doubt your worth because someone else makes you feel inferior. Think about it like this, when someone is mean to you, what are they getting out of it? They are getting the “satisfaction” that they are better. Who needs the satisfaction of being better? Why people who feel like they AREN’T ENOUGH. You see? You are not the problem, you are just the person they decided to target. Their actions, however, has nothing to do with who you are, but who THEY ARE and their own insecurities.
- Realizing that it is okay to not be liked by everyone. This was a hard one for me. It took a lot of time for me to not wonder, why that girl or this girl didn’t like me. But, the bottom line, I don’t need everyone to like me. Wanting that, was an issue within myself, I had to dive deep to resolve.
- Don’t react. What annoys a mean person more? When they don’t get the attention they were striving for when they made the strike. Don’t react to them. Don’t add fuel to the fire. Don’t respond to their text. Don’t cry in front of them (it’s okay to cry if you need to though). Don’t give them the satisfaction of knowing they got to you. It will drive them crazy and many times than not, they will crumble. A way I like to take this a step further? I kill them with kindness. Currently, there is a woman at work who is so mean. She is a grumpy old nurse and I don’t really care for her, but you now what makes her blood boil? When, I act stupid, like I didn’t catch her rudeness, and just carry on with my bubbly self. It drives her crazy and that is honestly sometimes even more amusing (is that being a mean girl back? Not sure haha).
- Lastly, sometimes all I need is a good vent session with one of my besties or hubby and I let all of my frustration out, then move on. I definitely don’t have time for someone’s pettiness. I have goals to crush, people to see, people who love me, and more important things to worry about then your snarky remarks or actions. I refuse to stoop to your level, and I refuse to allow you to take ownership over my emotions. Mean girls definitely don’t deserve that kind of attention.
I hope these tips help and please let me know if you have any questions. Maybe one day I will share all of the many mean girl situations I have had in the past, but for now, we will leave them where they are at…in the past.
For me, I want to be the best version of myself. I refuse to bring someone else down to help me get there and I also refuse to allow anyone else to pull me down, while I am on my way up. We are all beautiful souls that have so much to learn and love to give. I don’t know about you, but I don’t have time to deal with the drama.
Also, as I mentioned before, we have all been the mean girls before. Don’t forget to take note if you might be partaking in this. Sometimes that awareness is all you need to help you think why you are doing it in the first place. Is it because you are feeling insecure about something or perhaps feeling like you aren’t good enough. Recognize those emotions, and next time, work on bettering yourself, instead of tearing others down.
xoxo,
Melissa
